We’ve All Got ‘EM


question-1Every now and again, a client will come to me and ask directly for coaching to increase self-confidence.  More often, though, issues with self-confidence show up while we’re coaching toward other things. Important things like clarifying a career direction, writing a resume, practicing for an interview, or coaxing shy desires into the light. Usually, a client will ask me a question that let’s me know that there’s something about self-confidence there to explore.
Here are some typical questions:
  • Aren’t self-esteem and self-confidence the same?
  • Is, ”Fake it ’til you make it.” a viable strategy for building self-confidence?
  • If I were more self-confident I wouldn’t feel afraid, would I?
  • What gives me the right to call myself an expert?
  • If someone exudes confidence it means they feel confident, doesn’t it?
  • I don’t feel confident about this, so I guess I never really ever was, right?
I’ll go out on a limb here and say that you harbor at least one inaccurate or incomplete idea about self-confidence that affects your success no matter what success means to you. Most of us do. I’ve got a few of my own.