When you pause to observe the thoughts you are thinking, the feelings you’re feeling, which ones crowd you? Which ones lead immediately to an action? Did you notice you had a choice? If not, there’s wonderful work to do!
Care to explore ways to live your life with less reactivity – more joy, more balance, more freedom? You can find me at Move Into Change.
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I never remember that when I’m in it. It isn’t until after, when I’ve felt the shift and made some change that I realize what’s been going on. What makes the difference isn’t just having the freak out, if that were true I’d be someone quite different right now. The trick seems to be knowing I’m in a freak out, and then using the tools I’ve learned over the years to find my way back. Even if it takes as few days to remember I even have them. Even if it takes days to notice I’m in a freak out.
Or a week. Like it did this time. This one built for days and ended with me getting sick. Sick? I went through the whole winter, flu everywhere, and not even a sniffle. But this week, the week I’m putting myself out there about the Artful Insight Collage Workshop, learning how to use email marketing, writing the stuff (trying for engaging, clear, not annoying invitations), planning the class, buying materials, negotiating with Pound Ridge Recreation, telling business owners in town about the workshop, worrying about sign ups. This on top of meeting with and corresponding with my beloved clients. Out there, out there, and more out there.
Did I forget to eat well? Check. Did I abandon Mediation? Check. Did I obsess? Yes. Were there some other factors in personal life that have me a bit ungrounded? Sure. Was I somewhat aware that I was pushing beyond healthy for me? Yes. Did I pay attention? Not really.
And then “out of the blue” I get a raging fever and stomach yuck. Hmmm…
So a big thank you to my body for the head’s up. And a ton of appreciation to myself for all the work I’ve done around self-compassion and permission; because as I crashed, I knew what had happened and I didn’t criticize myself for it. No shaming or demeaning myself for having acted out the over-work pattern again. The self-critical pattern (at least in this instance) – kaput! And, I gave myself permission to rest – without guilt. Without worry, or admonishing myself for “wasting time.” Total permission to sleep, read, rinse and repeat.
Then the magic happened. The next day, I flew through hours of writing and planning with ease. On the other side of the freak out, the world looked brighter and new ideas were coming so fast I had to use my voice memo app. to keep up. The speed and flow felt entirely different than the hair-pulling of days before. This song kept playing in my head, so a little gift for you for fun, or freak-out.
Being afraid isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes you need that trembling feeling to remind you how exciting it is to be doing something new. – Jim Lewis –
I feel this way today. Aiming, trembling, wanting, ready with tools in hand.
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Metaphors have a way of holding the most truth in the least space.
–Orson Scott Card
An example of an Artful Insight Collage by a “non-artist.”
ARTFUL INSIGHT COLLAGE WORKSHOP Tuesday April 30th 6:30 – 8:30 pm or May 1st 9:30 -11:30 AM
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Story #1 How Artful Insight Collage Saved My @–
I was excited when the chancellor of my graduate school program (I was 56) asked me to speak at commencement. Then I panicked. All of the sudden, it seemed that I knew nothing about what I’d experienced in those two years. I had no idea what to write. When I say nothing came…literally, nada. The voice screaming, “You’re running out of time,” got louder and I got more stuck.
Just days til graduation, I considered cancelling. That would have felt worse. Then it dawned on me to use the Accessing Inner Wisdom(c) technique created by Mona Constantini that I’d learned in that very program. Two hours later, paper scraps littering my floor, I had a collage that gave me clues. Clues! The next day, I wrote the speech in one sitting. I got great feedback about it. The school featured it in their marketing materials. And I had fun! Here is the speech.
In the years since, I’ve adapted the technique to my clients, incorporating bits from Focusing and brain-based strategies creating Artful Insight Collage.
Story #2 Jeanne’s Job Review Turnaround
Jeanne was preparing for her end of year job review. To say she wasn’t looking forward to it is understatement. Though a highly effective professional, Jeanne was struggling with questions about her strengths, accomplishments and vision for the next year. Her confidence was flagging.
After a 2-hour Artful Insight collage session, Jeanne validated her strengths, found words for what she really does well, discovered and affirmed her work values, and got some new ideas too! She found the process more profound than she imagined. It was a relief from “all that trying to figure it out.”
“No one was more surprised that I was at the encouraging insights I got. I confess, I was rolling my eyes while I did it.” Susan T.
People have used Artful Insight Collage to help with anything from gaining clarity about a specific decision, to insight into a relationship.
There are many more stories of new insights and surprising discoveries, yours could be one of them.
To sign up:
1.Pick a date. April 30 Tuesday 6:30 – 8:30 PM or May 1 Wednesday 9:30 -11:30 AM
2.Call Pound Ridge Recreation to reserve (914) 764- 0947 (Mon. – Fri. 9am -4:30 PM)
3.Send a check for $20.00 made out to Town of Pound Ridge. 179 Westchester Ave., Pound Ridge, NY 10576
4.Show up! Conant Hall 257 Westchester Ave., Pound Ridge, NY easy to get to directions
Questions? Feel free to email me or call (917 450-1524)
For some people things come in threes, but it seems that 100 is my number.
I just finished 100 Days 100 Breaths, and now I’m just nine people short of 100 folks on my One and Only List. Will you help me get there?
More than reaching 100 (which would be cool), I want you to on the One & Only List because I know the free workbook Permission Granted: Move Into Change with Your Own Approval can help jump-start changes that will make your life more joyful, free and balanced. There are simple exercises in it that may help you think in new ways about old stuff. I worked hard on it, and it’s good.
I want you to have access to tips and tools for self coaching that you won’t find on the blog, and advanced notice about classes or workshops before I announce to everyone else. This is my way of making more of what I know available to you. It may not be the time for one- on-one coaching for you, or you may not even want it. If you’re perfectly happy hanging here on the blog, it’s all good.
So what else might come my way in groups of 100? Please not Dalmatians. JOIN HERE
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