Wednesday Words

“Often we treat certain aspects of ourselves as junk, having no value. We try to throw parts of ourselves in the garbage. But a human being is an ecosystem, and everything in that system is of value to the whole.”

– Stephen Schwartz.

hole-in-heartAre you abandoning the parts you don’t like? At what cost? What if you could learn to include all of you?

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Wednesday Words

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In the last analysis, the individual person is responsible for living his own life and for finding himself. If he persists in shifting responsibility to somebody else, he fails to find out the meaning of his own existence.

~ Thomas Merton.

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Meditation Monday Day #100: Ta Da!

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Yay we did it!  I’m feeling quite good about this one hundredth day of meditation practice. 100 pats on the back, 100 butterfly kisses, 100 imaginary trumpets, and/or 100 bags of sparkles – whatever celebration floats your boat. Let’s just say, I’ve never been this consistent about meditation. Ever. Cue the dancing girls – wait, I am the dancing girl!

So what’s come out of it so far?

Beyond the bits of discovery about going in reverse to go forward, and finding new capacity for receiving compassion, which, by the way, would have been enough, I’ve noticed that when I don’t meditate I can feel the difference- big time. I didn’t really get that until this morning, when for the third day in a row I was avoiding sitting, and noticed that despite yoga practice, I’ve been weirdly ungrounded and unfocused for the past few days. Ding.

Yeah, “duh,” but instead of going down the beat myself up for not getting it sooner road (I know you know that one), I sat. And, ohm my goodness…the difference. There it was. I’ve leaped from meditation as an experiment in commitment and self-compassion into the realm of, this s–t is important to me.

So what now what? In anticipation of this day I’ve been thinking and poking around on the internet. I found the 21 Day Meditation Challenge with Deprak Chopra and Oprah (ChOprah?), which started in March, but can be downloaded for free anytime. Not my cup of tea, but could be yours. I found an old book on meditation and there’s some interesting meditation techniques in there that I might try, though this mindfulness mind training is pretty great.

Any suggestions of what I might try next?

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Meditation Monday Day #86: Now

Even though it’s still cold, spring is here. I see the crocuses and the daffodil shoots aiming toward the sun, a sun that feels warmer on my cheeks than just a month ago. When I awaken early, the birds are singing their spring song, and I am reminded of the continual renewal around me; a wheel that keeps turning whether I acknowledge it or not.

Soft curving melody, bird song lifts my morning mood.

Yes, I know it’s Tuesday. It’s been a tough week for meditation practice. When the moment came each day, it seemed like everything, er, anything, was more important than doing it. What’s going on here?

I’m going to approach answering that question keeping the larger commitment I’ve made to myself – out of which Meditation Monday grew – to treat myself with as much compassion ( = love) that I can stand. Here goes:

  •  “What’s going to happen when the 100 days are over?” I’m hearing that  I’m in the car, when I wake up, before I sit to meditate… ahhh…there it is. Ahead of myself. Expectations. Thinking I have to know something I don’t know yet.
  • And, there’s a hint of sadness, too. Will something be lost when the commitment 100 Days 100 Breaths is over? I can sense the desire to rush in and protect myself from feeling it. Hello there default mode.I see you.
  • Truth is, I don’t know what this is right now, I only know what I think it is from before. I can go there and watch it with 100 breaths.

I’ll go now.

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Meditation Monday Day #78: Stepping Out and In Again

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Oh man, just when you think you’ve “got it,” the next bit of learning beckons. Usually it comes in some form of an obstacle. Today, its name is frustration.

After a week of smooth meditation practice in which breaths came and went in variations on the theme of Hello, Goodbye, today’s practice started out like a night of tossing and turning. All over the place and no place at all.

First, I try reining myself in with an image of a horse at the bit. That feels harsh and my body contracts. Next I imagine my breaths as a rabble of butterflies captured in a net for observation. Somehow, even though the net is gauzy, it feels wrong and damaging to the butterflies’ wings to boot. The butterflies are flinging themselves at the confinement of the net and seem more agitated than before. Yikes, I’m creating resistance to the very thing I want.

What is it I want? I want a butterfly to alight and then settle on a flower, calm. In order to have that, I can’t capture it, I must invite it. I must unfold petals and offer Presence*. I’ve forgotten Presence; no, not forgotten – stepped out of it. Presence is the opposite of force.Narcissus unfoldingI can step into it again, remembering that a flower doesn’t question its ability to be a flower.

* Presence: The state of being that includes all experience with awareness, gentle curiosity,  and compassion (taken fromFocusing work).

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Meditation Monday Day #71: Hello, Goodbye

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I’ve read that the ancient yogis specifically designed Hatha Yoga (yoga poses) to prepare the physical body for the rigors of meditation. You may have heard this too. (Though, from the looks of some yoga classes, you’d be likely to wonder if the purpose of all those poses and breaths is to look like the Lululemon models.)

After a particularly satisfying yoga practice today, I noticed how much easier it is to slide into meditation. I’ve already slowed down, I’ve already been listening to by breath and been paying attention to sensations. Yoga provides a way to walk the bridge from outer to inner worlds. Yoga is the bridge and the walk.  And so my understanding of “preparing” the body for meditation takes on meaning – no, not meaning, new meaning.

Now I sit and as one breath leaves, I murmur good-bye. Good-bye?  Oh well, I go with it, saying hello as close as I can to moment I notice a breath coming in, and good-bye when I sense the last bit is gone. It’s all but impossible to discern the exact moment when out becomes in, and hello becomes good-bye. mobius-band_shutterstock_300And, I keep wandering away from it, unable to sustain full attention  for more than a few breaths at a time. Yet I keep on, aware that with each new hello life says yes – more – again – alive- forward- now…

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Meditation Monday Day #64: Taking it for a Walk

Screen Shot 2013-01-27 at 3.43.18 PMSilence behind breaths all week. Sometimes forcing it, then having to back up, but mostly settling in with ease. Wow.

Saturday I decided to take it on the road. Walking along the soggy pavement lip of the winding roads around my house, it was weird listening inward while looking outward. Uphill made my breathing louder and I liked that. I was confused by the visuals, though. How to process what’s coming in without losing my attention on my breath? It seemed impossible. I even tried closing my eyes – that didn’t go well.

Soon I was noticing my breath filling out the area between my shoulder blades. My sense of my “back” morphed into awareness of all the space around me. Automatically, my eyes refocused at the horizon line, my head steadied on my neck and the world became simultaneously more vibrant and comforting.

I rounded the corner onto a new road and saw,

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Meditation Monday Day #57: Shh, We’re Watching Bweaths

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A new thing showed up this week.

Quiet.

There I was dutifully watching my thoughts and counting, when behind my  soft snores I heard silence.Though I’ve experienced profound quiet as a real and palpable absence of sound from the external world, this was different.

It was there and not there. In me and not in me. More than in me? I’m not sure if spatial descriptors work at all here.

I felt a sense of dropping into it. My body gave. Relaxing and mysterious – how’s that for two words that rarely describe the same thing?

I like this quiet.

I got to thinking about silence and John Cage’s controversial 4’3” Listening to it made people uncomfortable and well…you decide.

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Have you noticed that it’s so much better when other people tackle a disciplined practice along with you?  It would be fantastic if you were doing it too. We can share stories – or not. You can just read, lurk about and observe – your call.

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Meditation Monday Day #50: Halfway There By Going Backwards

Screen Shot 2013-01-27 at 3.43.18 PMYes, 50 is the halfway mark to 100. I’ve managed to keep at it, letting the commitment work on me, while I work on it. I’m proud of persevering. Are you? Butterfly kisses for me and for any of you who are doing this too.

Today though, I’m rushing my breaths in “to do” mode. Something in the acknowledgment of getting half way there has triggered something else. Suddenly meditating today is a job, no longer a choice. How quickly my relationship to it changes and my thoughts go free range.

You know that dream where you’re falling and right before you hit the ground you jolt yourself awake and realize you’ve been dreaming? I haven’t noticed my breathing in God knows how long, and now I know it.

50 more days to get where exactly? What’s important here, the outcome or the process? Who’s in charge and is this a version of Who are you listening to?

Since I seem to have forgotten myself, I do the thing I know to do when that happens. I go backwards, find something from the basics and get simple. In this case (and almost every case) this means something sensory. So I place my fingertips on the floor and lift each finger like I’m practicing the carpet piano with a breath for each note. This breath ballet takes me all the way to 100.

Talk to me. How’s it going for you?

Have you noticed that it’s so much better when other people tackle a disciplined practice along with you?  It would be fantastic if you were doing it too. We can share stories – or not. You can just read, lurk about and observe – your call.

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