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Wednesday Words: Water Yourself

Right to growIf you’ve been reading this blog for a while or are getting my Move Into Change newsletters, you already know how much I adore Cheryl Strayed. This quote comes from Tiny Beautiful Things, a small book whose outsized compassion and powerful writing knocks me out every time. It’s a must.

The above quote reminds me of two foundational aspects of personal growth that I forget to talk about sometimes.

1) The right to grow is in our very nature. We often think that we have to prove to someone that we have it – but we don’t. A gazillion years ago, Byron Katie  told me that if I thought of myself as the tree outside my window, it would be simple to understand my own worth and then get out of my own way. I never forgot it.

Now I know  she meant that to participate in and contribute to the ongoing creation of life as it moves forward from moment to moments is our birthright. Trees don’t question it, so maybe we don’t need to, either.

2) The moment when I recognized that I wasn’t showing up in my own life was the precise moment II began to grow up. Don’t ask me how old I was…

Recognizing that we all must do this for ourselves is basic, yet so many of us resist.  Looking for others to do for us that which we refuse to do for ourselves leads only to disappointment, anxiety, isolation and a a profound sense of loss. Attempting to teach other people (like our children) how to do this is futile unless we live it first. By the way, all things I llearned the hard way.

Do not misunderstand, I don’t mean that we shouldn’t ask for help or trust others to support us. If we lack the core ability to show up for our real needs, it doesn’t matter how many people love us (or how much external pampering we give ourselves),  we’ve left the person who really matters (us) by the side of the road. And nothing, can make up for that.

So, grow yourself and don’t forget that you can carry the water.

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Wednesday Words

I want to move through the next week as if I had diamonds on the soles of my shoes. Literally and metaphorically.

Joyful, light, sensitively touching the ground, quick, direct, easy, connected: moving powerfully as part of a group and always a unique individual, responsive and playful.

What about you?

Enjoy!

Wednesday Words

“Often we treat certain aspects of ourselves as junk, having no value. We try to throw parts of ourselves in the garbage. But a human being is an ecosystem, and everything in that system is of value to the whole.”

– Stephen Schwartz.

hole-in-heartAre you abandoning the parts you don’t like? At what cost? What if you could learn to include all of you?

You are always welcome to poke around at Move Into Change. If you’re ready,  let’s see if we can work together.

Wednesday Words

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In the last analysis, the individual person is responsible for living his own life and for finding himself. If he persists in shifting responsibility to somebody else, he fails to find out the meaning of his own existence.

~ Thomas Merton.

You are always welcome to poke around at Move Into Change. If you’re ready,  let’s see if we can work together.

The First Time Artful Insight Collage Saved My @–

I would never ask you to invest time or money in something I haven’t used myself and seen make a difference for lots of people. Still, cutting and pasting images to tap into intuition has got to sound a bit “woo-woo” to some you, so I thought I might tell you a story or two.

Story #1 How Artful Insight Collage Saved My @–

I was excited when the chancellor of my graduate school program (I was 56) asked me to speak at commencement. Then I panicked. All of the sudden, it seemed that I knew nothing about what I’d experienced in those two years. I had no idea what to write. When I say nothing came…literally, nada. The voice screaming, “You’re running out of time,” got louder and I got more stuck.

 Just days til graduation, I considered cancelling. That would have felt worse. Then it dawned on me to use the Accessing Inner Wisdom(c) technique created by Mona Constantini that I’d learned in that very program. Two hours later, paper scraps littering my floor, I had a collage that gave me clues. Clues! The next day, I wrote the speech in one sitting. I got great feedback about it. The school featured it in their marketing materials. And I had fun! Here is the speech.

TGI collage

In the years since, I’ve adapted the technique to my clients, incorporating bits from Focusing and brain-based strategies creating Artful Insight Collage.

Story #2  Jeanne’s Job Review Turnaround

Jeanne was preparing for her end of year job review. To say she wasn’t looking forward to it is understatement. Though a highly effective professional, Jeanne was struggling with questions about her strengths, accomplishments and vision for the next year. Her confidence was flagging.

 After a 2-hour Artful Insight collage session, Jeanne validated her strengths, found words for what she really does well, discovered and affirmed her work values, and got some new ideas too! She found the process more profound than she imagined. It was a relief from “all that trying to figure it out.”  

 “No one was more surprised that I was at the encouraging insights I got. I confess, I was rolling my eyes while I did it.”                                                                                 Susan T. 

 People have used Artful Insight Collage to help with anything from gaining clarity about a specific decision, to insight into a relationship.

There are many more stories of new insights and surprising discoveries, yours could be one of them.

To sign up:

1.Pick a date.  April 30  Tuesday   6:30 – 8:30 PM or May 1  Wednesday   9:30 -11:30 AM

2.Call Pound Ridge Recreation to reserve (914) 764- 0947  (Mon. – Fri. 9am -4:30 PM)

3.Send a check for $20.00 made out to Town of Pound Ridge.                                           179 Westchester Ave., Pound Ridge, NY 10576

4.Show up! Conant Hall 257 Westchester Ave., Pound Ridge, NY  easy to get to directions

Questions? Feel free to email me or call  (917 450-1524)

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Wednesday Words

chooseauthenticitybadgeIt is a choice and the door to joy and freedom. You can download this badge here. If you don’t know know the work of Brene Brown, go now and listen to her TED talk or better yet, read her books.

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