We have all received terrible life advice. Prescriptions for lasting love, stable careers, purposeful living, happy family life and fool-proof fashion. This advice is offered as pearls of wisdom and truth with a capital T. It can come from family, friends, websites, teachers- usually unbidden.
Sometimes this advice is just plain against human nature. Often, it’s just ridiculous. Even good advice given at the wrong time or applied in the wrong place, or slightly misinterpreted, can slide into “Danger, Will Robinson,” territory.
My friend Richard, told me the worst advice he ever got was that he, “couldn’t have a singing career and a family.” He was at a crossroads, he believed that this decision was either/or. Sigh.
It took a while to hone my list of godawful guidance down to just a baker’s dozen of terrible teachings I’ve gotten. How do I know they were terrible advice for me? Take a wild guess.
I’m positive that I’ve given #s 5 & 6 and acted on #10 all too often. And #13, a piece of advice for an evolved being, who doesn’t need it by then anyway.
In no particular order of awfulness…
- Don’t cry.
- Wait for the exact right time.
- Wear plastic sweatpants to lose weight.
- If you give everything you’ve got to others you won’t need to give to yourself.
- If it makes you anxious, don’t do it.
- If it makes you anxious, do it.
- Never go outside with wet hair.
- Don’t even think you’re creative unless what you’re doing is completely original.
- Never quit.
- The best thing you can do for a friend is give advice (even if they don’t ask).
- Get even (as in, “Don’t get mad, get even”), you’ll feel better and they’ll learn how it feels.
- Hold onto it, you never know when you might need it.
- and the breezily & oh so easily said, always at the wrong time…Just let it go.
I’m sure you’ve gotten a bit of crummy counsel, even some doozies, of your own. Maybe given some too? Share in the comments!
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