- Presence Practice Perimeter
Peace Play Perseverance
Patience Plenty Possibilities
Paradox Poetic Pleasure
The list is way longer than this, but I’m stopping here for now because I want to focus on the first two.
Recently, I came across the above quote from Brene Brown (if you haven’t checked her out yet, I suggest you do).
“I don’t want someone who loves me – I want someone who practices their love for me every day.”
Who wouldn’t say “yes” to this? Yes, yes, yes and YES!
One thing I love about this quote is that it implies, without actually stating it, that there’s a way that some people love that isn’t a practice. We feel love, and it’s a great feeling- the best. However, doing love is whole ‘nother thing. Feeling love for a specific person but failing to practice it consistently in ways that are recognized by that other person = 0 relationship. I’ve been there, I’m guessing you have too.
Seems obvious -yes? But somehow we can fall for the reassurances of “but I love you,” when other people can’t or won’t practice, or, we use those same reassurances ourselves when we can’t or won’t (guilty). Notice that “perfect” isn’t on my list. And notice too, I’m not questioning anyone’s feeling of love, or the purest of loving intentions, only observing that practice is different. And yes, it’s also true that telling someone you love them is regularly part of practicing love.
Which brings me to this: How often do I practice love for myself? What about you? What are all the ways you’d recognize you loving you?
Here’s one from me; listening. It’s the most loving thing we can do for us, and for the people we love. And, If you have children, then listening to them with your full on presence is the finest practice, a magnificent gift.